The Key to avoiding a heartache when a relationship starts is not at the ending,  but at the beginning. It is absolutely vital that you be completely honest with your self.  You have to start a relationship with the attitude that you’re in this experience  to share the treasure of happiness within that you already possess.  If you are looking for some one to make you happy;  then you are already setting your self up for a heartache.   This may be a big problem for many people seeking a relationship in order to find happiness,  but it’s a fact that you must know in order to avoid heartache.    Seeking to find some one to make you happy only leaves you vulnerable to be used and gives your power away.  Seeking to share the happiness already within in you is like taking a wonderful dish to a potluck.  They bring their dishes and you bring yours; Now you have something really special.  You have enhanced both of your lives by sharing both of your gifts with in.  If this mutual relationship has to come to an end for what ever reason, you will be able to bow out gracefully.  You’ll take a deep breath, learn from it and move on to offer your treasure to the next fortunate soul.